Friday, 2 August 2013

Time for an update - part two



So, to carry on from yesterday, I tantalised with tales of a trip out.  Here you go...

On Monday, I had the chance to do lunch with two of my girlfriends.  Honestly, even writing that line makes me smile ridiculously.  We went to Pizza Express for lunch and Costa for, well, coffee!  Except none of us actually had coffee.  I don’t have a photo from the day, but the outfit was this one.

The day was a mixture of great and tough moments as I continue to learn to cope with being out amongst the general public and with the continuing heat we are experiencing.

I woke up really early in the morning because I needed to get a load of work done before I left for the day.  So a 5am start, work done, time to get ready.  First job was obviously to try to get my make up on.  Disastrous.  I pride myself on the fact that I’m getting better at make up.  By no means am I an expert, but I’m improving.  That day it was like trying to paint water.  My new place, whilst lovely, is very hot and after I had put on my foundation, bronze and blush, I was dripping and dripping and dripping.  Horrible.  A full on fan was employed and I rushed through the rest of my routine.  My car has air conditioning and all I could think about was getting into it and cooling down.  In the rush, it also meant that I came away without my glasses and had to survive two days without them.

After a long drive, I arrived at Pizza Express.  Both L and S, my girlfriends, were already there and waiting for me.  S is used to being with me in Rhiannon mode and is one of my biggest advocates.  She is lovely.  For L this was the first time, but for various reasons she is very comfortable around trans people.  So when I arrived, she didn’t bat an eyelid.

I will hazard a guess in a moment as to why, but suffice to say, when I arrived, I really felt out of sorts.  The place was heaving, full of families, lots of noise, screaming kids etc.  All the other women were wearing sandals and I had some ordinary small heel shoes on my feet.  It became apparent that my foundation had dropped off in places which meant that some of my shadow was showing through.  And finally, the people at the next table decided that they would just take their time to look grumpily in my direction for a long time.  All small things, but I went quiet and felt like crying.

Half way through the meal, S asked me if I was ok because I was being uncharacteristically silent.  I owned up to how I was feeling and we talked about it and I started feeling better.  S stared out the table who were looking at me and they largely stopped.  What is it with some people?  We made plans to get my foundation fixed and I began to cheer up.

Given it was L’s first time meeting me, I was absolutely intrigued by what she thought.  L has the most wicked sense of humour - I absolutely love spending time with her and her response was typically L.  She basically said that she was relieved to meet me as she was worried that in real life I wouldn’t look like my photos.  Given that situation, she felt there would have been no option other than to lie or at least to be nice whilst thinking ‘ugh’.  Instead she was pleasantly pleased at how good I looked :o).  That’ll do for me :o)

After lunch (small salad and sparkling water), we went to sort out foundation.  S and L are both complete fans of Bare Minerals and felt that it would help me with my perspiration issues.  So we went to a concession and the very helpful lady at the counter helped choose my tone and applied some to me.  She added some more blush and as well as being amazed at how good the stuff was, I was back to looking properly made up again with no shadow.  Double yay!

So we headed to Costa.  By this stage, I was comfortable and back to my normal self and was really starting to enjoy the day.  We went in and ordered our drinks.  The barrista took time to use lots of female pronouns, ‘ladies’, ‘girls’ etc.  Probably a bit too much, but I’m seriously never going to complain about that. Quite the opposite in fact. So we sat down and continued our nattering, or as Sheldon Cooper would put it, ‘jibber jabber’.  I felt for all the world like just another girl, chatting to her friends and enjoying a nice day out.

Complete kudos to S and L.  They treated me as they would treat any of their girlfriends.  In doing so, they gifted me with another day I can look back on and smile about.  They are both completely fantastic.

12 comments:

  1. Ah, I'm so glad your day got better. My own heavy-makeup phase was brief but equally fraught with confidence issues, although I didn't have your hot-weather prtoblems. Laser and electrolysis soon dealt with the worst of the shadow - at a cost.

    Lucy

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    1. Thank you Lucy - I really do think I'm going to have to bite the bullet and put up with the pain of removal (physical and monetary costs!)...

      Rhi x

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  2. Yes, you know it will make a world of difference! Get that appointment made - I can't ever see you wanting to grow a beard .......

    By the way complete kudos to you as well. I appreciate that having supporters helps but you still went out and did it :)

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    1. Thank you Becca, I know it will, but its just painful!! After the Summer, I'll book in... :o)

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    2. Pah ...... laugh in the face of pain. Get them booked, you won't regret it :)

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    3. I know - I'm full of excuses when it means I can avoid pain! :o)

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  3. You are seriously cute! :)

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    1. Anon, you can come again. :o) In fact, please do :o)

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  4. Ack, heat and make-up? Not a good mix! :-)

    S & L sound like top friends. Lovely to hear that you've got a spring back in your step.

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    1. It made such a huge difference to me. L and I have been talking since and she has continued her good work of adding to the spring step - I'm feeling pretty good about things at the moment. x

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  5. Yea for a happy post! Aren't great friends worth their weight in gold? :D

    Hugs,
    Cass

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    1. Absolutely spot on Cass, they really are. I feel very lucky to have these two and more. I often don't feel like I deserve them really, but I'm glad they are there and they make me very happy.

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